ALMS? anyone?

Growing up in a Catholic upbringing environment taught me to give alms to the less fortunate people around me whenever i can. But as i go farther to this reality,i faltered in my beliefs and steped back to this help. I have issues with this things.
This situations happened to me:

1.) I gave some loose change to a small kid,only found out later that he used my coins to play karakrus with his fellow kids.
2.) Same situation with a kid,I asked him first. Where are your parents? he pointed out in the corner his mom pregnant,smoking and eating some fishbol. wtf?
3.) I was commuting and observed a mother with a baby staring at the wind shields of nice cars. the following days i saw the same kid but different mothers. They pass around the baby for their own keepsake.
4.) I was riding a jeep going home and a small kid with envelopes rode the jeep and handed envelopes written "pahingi ng barya po" in script writing.Wow! the kid wouldn't write it down because i think his 5 yr old. So blame the parents who loves making babies to do their job for them.
5.) People who hands a small laminated letter of their "foundation" and ask for help and not saying anything.
6.) My mother is helping out whenever she can,one time he saw a kid without a slipper. SHe gave him a pair then after a while some kids flocked our gate and asked"ikaw ba yung namigay ng tsinelas? pahinga nga.."
7.) In the status of our family,we are placed in the better walks of life so some of our relatives asks for help but why they only remember us on christmas and when they are in need. When they don't need us,we don't exist.

I am not saying they are bad people.. I see Goodness still but will you give help to someone who doesn't care to you? they just want easy money. It's your action that is impt. and they got things for that? I've been helping people on the depressed area when i was young. Going to their house,eating meals with them. Is it ironic that on some occasions how did they acquire dvd and karaoke set while in our house we have none? it makes me wonder.I don't deprive them from such things but won't you think twice? I want to help.. I just don't want to give them money anymore. Money is the root of evil. It's a double edged sword that could help or hurt. My piece of advice is just give them food or clothes,not money. atleast it's already there but still my family encountered a relative selling the things we give him for bad medicine. What a waste.
It's ok to help.. just be wise..

"Give the man a fish and he'll live for a Day,Teach the man how to fish and he'll live forever"